It also says that their answers to the teacher’s question must be passed tomorrow (March4,2010 –which is technically today since it is already 1:30am) put in yellow pad paper.
Since I know (I think I do) the English instructor who asked this “emo” question on the white board, I’m going to try and answer it, too bad I can’t pass this to the teacher.
(hindi ko na napicturan kasi nasaharapan na yung prof. namin, nag didiscuss ng solutions :p)
So here are the questions:
1. In your opinion, does platonic relationships really exist? Explain Exhaustively.
Yes platonic relationships really exist. I can tell you that from what I’ve seen, felt or experienced in my nineteen years of existence.
First, since I wasn’t there when the instructor instructed about this “Platonic relationship”, let me first illuminate you about this two-word noun (tama bang noun yon? Di ko alam. Hehe).
I “googled” it off and here is my most liked meaning:
PLATONIC:
1. The tendency of women to develop close friendships with their male acquaintances, thereby pre-emptively eliminating any possibility of a romantic relationship, the result of which is to remove the poor schmuck's heart and shred it
2. The process by which attractive and otherwise eligible women, when faced by proffered declarations of romantic interest by a male acquaintance, destroy the ego and spirit of said acquaintance by declaring that they only want to be "friends."
Typical response from a female to a male in a platonic relationship:
"I have feelings for you too, I don't want to do anything that could jeopardize our friendship. You're like a brother to me."
www.urbanictionary.com
I know that my source is not that reliable but all of the other more reliable website tell almost the same. I liked this more because of the “schmuck’s heart” word. :D
My answer: I do believe that platonic relationship exists because human heart cannot be dictated, if you feel you are intensely attracted to that one person but he treats you only like a normal colleague or friend, you can never dictate your heart to stop loving that one person you are so fond of. For a good portion of us, attraction to the opposite sex is genetically “hardwired” into our psyche. There’s no way to avoid it. We find the physical form of the opposite sex attractive, the opposite sex exudes pheromones that we find attractive, even something as simple of the timbre of the voice of a member of the opposite can trigger a romantic response in us. Add to that the fact that nothing makes a romantic relationship more successful then when the people involved are “friends first”, and it’s easy to see why platonic relationships can be difficult to keep strictly platonic. Feelings especially that of love is not like a TV station where you can just turn off once the TV anchor tells you to turn the TV off and he then tells you to listen to the radio instead. Like in being in love, you can’t just shut your heart off one person you want to watch, admire, see, mingle, care for, attend to, or love all day long just because he tells you, “I don’t love you back”.
Although many platonic relationships do not work well, it starts when romantic feelings spring up in both parties, then the friendship turns into a romantic relationship and everyone is happy. But a good portion of the time only one of the friends becomes attracted to the other, and then the platonic relationship is in trouble. But I believe that if you are really fond of that one person; your friend, especially if you have been friends for a very long time, you are willing to suffer all the pains just to be with him and continue what you have. In a relationship, it is not always about having fun and being in calm waters because sometimes it is the struggle that spice up the relationship, even for a platonic relationship.
Platonic relationship is really hard to handle and it takes a brave heart, an open mind and courage to keep the relationship going.
2. Why is that sometimes platonic relationships turn sour?
Platonic relationships sometimes turn sour when one of the two parties(her) demand more that what the other party(him) can give. Another point is when she can no more handle the frustration and pain their relationship is causing her.
3. Would you rather stay with your friend even if he does not love you back? Or would you just turn and walk away because you don’t want to get hurt?
This is the question for those stereotype people who has fallen in love with their best friend or one friend in his/her circle of friends.
I would answer this question as if I have fallen in love with my real life best friend.
I would rather stay with my friend even if he does not love me back. In the first place, he is still my friend who held my hand as I cross the dark phases of my life and the same friend who laughed with me during the funniest moments of my journey. He is still that one guy friend who was, not only the closest thing to being my brother, but also the one man I’d like to waste the rest of my day with. The only problem which complicates things is when I felt a deeper kind of love, a love other than “philia”, a love which is named in Latin as “amore”.
It’s weird having this sentiment, especially when I have nobody to share it to since the one guy I tell all my secrets to, is the same secret I keep from the world. Yet, I will stay with my best friend as “best friends” since friendships are never broken so I can still make him feel my love all the time we are together. It is okay to be just friends with him even though I already love him because I believe that one’s lover must also be one’s best friend.
It is really hard to keep yourself from being in love with one guy who would always be sweet for you everyday, who would always walk you home, who would always eat with you during lunch and dinner, who would always buy you ice cream whenever you are sad, who would always give you a big hug when you achieve something incredible and a guy friend who would always be there for you no matter what. Who would not fall for your her definition of Mister right when he is right there by your side, as best friend. He who would give you all but not love.
Platonic relationships really exist, and the thing that’ll make it sour is when she grows tired of loving him but at the end, she would still choose to be with him and be there to make him feel her love rather than to just walk away and be afraid to get hurt.
Credits to
www.urbandictionary.com
http://www.entertainmates.
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